Embrace Your Inner Demons: A Path to Personal Growth and Fulfillment
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We all have inner demons, forces of fear, desire, and motivation. These primal instincts drive us to overcome obstacles and embark on new challenges!
But often, we mismanage these forces. At times, we shy away from them, and at other times, we suppress them. We may even resent them and consequently resent ourselves, working to hide our true selves!
Embrace Your Darkness, let it Ignite Your Passion!
Society is fucked up.
It all starts too early in society. Customs, religion, and societal ideals nurture this unreasonable and illogical fear of oneself. Almost everything that makes a human an individual, creative, and daring being is criminally vilified.
Every original idea is faced with three poisonous words: "3eb," "haraam," or "l regala ma bt3mlsh keda." They try to enforce an absurd and outdated rigged structure to whip you into shape and follow their "golden path." The entire society tries to live vicariously through you. The struggles they had for millennia are somehow your burden to solve by becoming what they deem righteous and successful, regardless of whether those definitions are what they deem as successful.
I don't want to get sidetracked discussing this hypocrisy of society so I'll move to my main point! This obsession with these made ideals is BS you need to drop. You need to become aware of its consequences on you and it's time to stop battling your "daemons." As you would argue, these instincts are your way to thrive and become the best possible version of your true self.
Take the hint.
These forces, or 'demons,' are reflections and echoes of who you are and what you can and should strive to be. Your deviant thoughts and urges are a manifestation of your individuality.
So, you need to embrace them and listen to yourself. Take the hint! A caveat to this statement is that you are a fallible human after all. Therefore, some of these thoughts might be destructive. It's your responsibility to learn how to separate the flawed voices from your true productive self. You must learn to listen carefully to yourself and classify these thoughts as either your true voice or just darkness. You'll have to do this while unlearning societal taboos.
The struggle to embrace one's true self is an immense task that involves rejecting the constraints of societal norms and expectations, as well as unlearning years of beliefs that have partly helped shape your identity and thoughts.
However, it's essential to break free from these societal expectations and embrace our authentic selves. It is okay to reject the tyranny of society and conformity, and it is okay to take risks and make mistakes!
To achieve your goals, you must utilize the monster within you, including the dark and unhinged thoughts that you have, the things that are on the edge, but you always hold back from expressing. You need to accept these thoughts, filter out the destructive ones, and pour the entirety of your soul and energy into the productive ones.
Empathy towards yourself and others.
A critical pillar of utilizing this approach is to cultivate empathy towards both yourself and others. It is important to recognize the harmful thought pattern of believing that we are superior to others and to work towards eradicating it. This superiority complex can manifest in various ways, such as engaging in power struggles at work, picking unnecessary fights in a relationship, and even lashing out at others and ourselves. Therefore, we need to learn to view everyone as equals, despite differences in how they express their fears, aspirations, desires, dark thoughts, and childish hopefulness towards humanity and the future.
If we fail to adopt this lens of equality, we risk turning the beast against us and allowing it to consume us entirely. It is essential to practice empathy for ourselves and others to avoid such a fate.
"You are no less AND you are no more than others"
The process of unlearning societal norms
Acknowledge society's influence on you, but don't resent it! These expectations and traditions set the boundaries of what's acceptable and good and unacceptable and bad. frequently these traditions propagate antiquated ideologies, by perpetuating stereotypes that destroy our growth potential and individuality. Take, for example, the gender roles - men are expected to demonstrate emotional stoicism and strength, while women are expected to be nurturing and deferential. The nature of these expectations can give rise to feelings of shame, guilt, and inadequacy when we fail to conform to these narrowly defined social roles.
it is equally important not to resent them. Resentment can lead to negative emotions and an inability to move forward towards embracing our authentic selves. Instead, we need to adopt a growth mindset and focus on learning how to unlearn these norms.
Another crucial aspect is to find your voice. You must learn to speak up for yourself and advocate for what you believe in. Don't shy away from your thoughts; express what you think and express it loudly! You will not get it right, and you will regret what you said at times, this is a good thing, it's part of the learning process and finding out who you are! Don't bury yourself in silence.
In summary, embracing our inner demons is crucial to becoming the best version of ourselves. We must reject societal expectations, unlearn harmful beliefs, and cultivate empathy towards ourselves and others. It is a difficult process, but by finding our voice, filtering out destructive thoughts, and pouring our soul and energy into productive ones, we can break free and achieve our goals.
Don't let Moloch get you!
The concept of Moloch as expressed by "Scott Alexander" can be seen as a metaphor for the destructive and competitive forces that exist in society and within individuals. In the context of personal growth, embracing the "right" demons of oneself means acknowledging and accepting the darker aspects of one's personality, rather than suppressing or denying them. It means understanding that these aspects are not necessarily "evil," but rather a natural part of being human.
By embracing our demons, we can work to integrate and balance these aspects of ourselves, and constructively use them. This can lead to greater self-awareness, personal growth, and a more authentic way of living.
However, it's important to note that embracing our demons does not mean giving in to destructive or harmful behaviours. Rather, it means recognizing and channelling these energies in a positive direction, such as through creative expression, meaningful work, or healthy competition.
In essence, the idea of Moloch reminds us of the importance of acknowledging and confronting the darker aspects of ourselves and society, while also recognizing the potential for growth and transformation that lies within them.